Too Scared To live?

Written by Kapil Kumar Bhaskar
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Fear can be conquered by courage that is derived from unconditional love

Have you ever wondered how we human beings are constantly trapped in the shadows of fear and stress? We often find ourselves using statements such as “I want freedom, peace, happiness; I want to enjoy my life.” But how many of us know the real meaning of freedom, peace and happiness? Fear can be visible or hidden, but it surfaces from time to time, in all aspects of our lives. It may spring up in many forms — fear in wanting something to happen (or not), fear of the unknown, fear of death, and so on. Whatever our fears might be, deep down we are aware that all our actions are directed only to seek joy and empower ourselves to experience our lives to the fullest. However, in spite of our best efforts to lead a fulfilling and joy full life, that joy or happiness evades us. So what has gone wrong?

Numerous people want to pursue living a positive and happy life but land up in some kind of mess. Then they start questioning their abilities, such as why they have so many fears, inhibitions and so on. Then there are people who are in search of their life’s purpose. Such people often end up being the so-called healers of the world because they believe there is some fallacy in the world, and something bad is going to happen to all living beings. However, when I look into their lives, I see nothing except darkness and their unwillingness to accept their life as it is.

I have also met people who are constantly stressed and live in fear because they want to be something after this life. They don’t want to live in the here and now, but are always in an illusion of some fascinating and interesting life they dream they will get after death. They keep running from pillar to post to find out how to reach “there”.

In all the above cases, people fear living in the now and complain that life is not happening to them. They are not living with full awareness of the fact that life is happening in this moment and in the fullest.

Let us look at our lives. On analysing, we will find that our lives are driven by the power of greed, attachments, false egos, selfish love and so on. Each of these emotions has one constant element — fear. This fear dissolves within us completely. For instance, if you eat an apple, after sometime the apple becomes you. In a similar manner, this fear we are eating all the time also transforms into anger, ego, hatred, jealousy, sadness and other negative emotions, and affects our physical, mental and emotional being.

So why do we live such a life? That is because we are not practical about the reality of existence. Most of us are trying to build something, rather everything, on that which is happening in the moment and is unstable. Can you catch sunlight in your fist and keep it with yourself? The light is there to celebrate but most of us are busy in collecting it in boxes, trunks, giving it shapes, names and so on. But when the sun of our life goes to sleep, all the boxes and trunks of relationships, status, egos are empty.

Courage, on the other hand, is embedded in unconditional giving. Love is unconditional. But it is not the love we know or see around us. The love we are talking about here is unconditional, one which goes beyond limitations and boundaries. The actual meaning of love is to give unconditionally. Nature is the best example of what comprises unconditional love, which gives us in plenty without any selfish motive or expectation. The sun rises every day without fail and provides us life. Does it have any motive? Mother earth keeps moving around its axis and revolving around the sun to preserve the life. What motive does she have?

If we observe the cycle of existence closely, the creation of living beings happens and is sustainable due to the force of love. Therefore, in many places and cultures people understand love as God. To become one with this idea of love, start living your life with the truest awareness of life, which is beyond your physical aspects. Always remember: Fear can be conquered by courage that is derived from unconditional love.

Start taking small steps each day by doing any small act of kindness with unconditional love for someone who is in need. These little acts have the potential to change your life. The energy of these good deeds of kindness and unconditional love will transform you into a higher spiritual being. Mother Teresa is the greatest example of our times who dedicated her entire life to kindness and unconditional love. As she said, “It’s not how much we give. but how much love we put into giving.”

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